on planning not to plan ...

I'm a "wing it" kind of gal. I could spend hours preparing for every class (and I've tried that), but you know what works best for me?

Showing up.

Feeling the feels.

And going with the flow.

I can't control who's going to be in one of my classes, or the energy that they bring.
Whenever I try to plan, things get sidetracked... so I've stopped.

We're going into one of the planniest times of the year. You've got obligations out the wazoo. And to some extent, you can pick & choose what works for you and fills your cup — but at the end of the day, there's no getting around the fact that you're going to spend SOME energy in situations or around people where you'd rather not be.

Here's what you need to do:

Before you leave, take ten minutes. Move your hips. Wiggle your ass. Shake out all the crap you need to shake out and THEN go see your family.

You don't need a pole to release this movement — and you'll feel much less like you're going to stab them with your fork over Christmas dinner.

And when you leave, let it go. What happens at the crazy relative's house stays at the crazy relative's house.

There are things that happen in your life that are beyond your control. Don't take them on as your own. Don't let them shake your precious energy. Don't own them or let them dictate how the rest of the season shakes out.

It's so important to spend time sitting with yourself and really thinking about what you want for you. What would bring you joy, just for you?

If that's a tough question to answer, that's totally okay. You know what we're going to do? We're going to try stuff and see what happens. We're going to chill the fuck out and stay expansive in our thinking. We're going to clear space for goodness that's going to find its way to us.

Oh, and we're going to try to stay out of jail. That feels like a pretty solid plan to me.

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