This is one of the biggest, most transformative realizations of my adult life-and one I wish I’d come to a lot sooner. It seems most of us carry some amount of shame with us especially when it comes to our bodies and sexuality. Still, it’s almost like the elephant in the room. We all know it’s there, but don’t have conversations around it.
All that shame we’re given about our bodies, our sexual pleasure, our desire to want more for ourselves, that’s not ours.
Shame runs deep and sinks it roots down to the very core of our personhood. Every time we’ve presented our authentic selves and were met by insults, ridicule, rejection, trauma, etc. the roots dig down a little deeper. We begin to believe every bit of bullshit that’s been told to us. We begin to disconnect from our true selves and try our best to fit into all the boxes society has set out for us instead. Fuck those boxes (more on that another time)
The more I’ve worked through my own struggles with shame, the more I wondered why we aren’t sharing and helping each other get to the other side of shame faster. There is so much joy and pleasure to be found on the other side. Pleasure, connection, love..those are your birthrights, not shame.
One of the most beautiful things about the studio is having that space and time devoted just for you to explore and reconnect. Our mindset begins to shift to one of appreciation of what our bodies do for us. We begin to feel safe and strong and beautiful in our skin, sometimes for the first time ever.
Fuck, it is hard to be vulnerable, but if you’ve had the resilience to carry all that baggage for so long, you are strong as fuck and more than capable of using that energy to heal.